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100 Ways To Boost Your Charisma

June 19, 2016 fm

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Five years of charisma trainings have taught me one thing: charisma is not 100% innate – at all! You, I, we all can increase our level of charisma. In this article I offer you a list of 100 charisma boosters. These 100 charisma boosters – hundreds of training participants came up with them, none of them innate – will doubtlessly help you to become a more charismatic person and communicator. Print them out, work on them, boost your charisma!

There are five categories of charisma drivers – presence, goals, interaction, communication and role model. In my opinion, the level of importance rises with each category.

Presence

1. Smile

No smile, no charisma.

2. Posture

Be an oak tree, not a shrub.

3. Image

You don’t have to look like George Clooney, but take care of yourself.

4. Style

There are style advisors. Check Google, get advice! Very recommendable!

5. Uniqueness

Steve Jobs’ turtlenecks, Angela Merkel’s diamond, I lack two incisors. What makes your presence unique?

 

Goals

6. Vision

The late Helmut Schmidt, former chancellor of Germany, once said: Those who have a vision, should go and see a doctor. I couldn’t disagree more. Share your vision, and they can follow.

7. Beliefs

If you don’t have beliefs to stand up for, what will you stand up for?

8. Drive

Apathy, laziness, lethargy – what have they ever achieved?

9. Motivation

Charismatic people need much less extrinsic motivation.

10. Initiative

What you don’t do, nobody will do it.

11. Determination

You know you will succeed.

12. Conviction

You’re convinced that you’re doing the right thing. You defend your conviction against any opposition.

13. Will

Where there’s a will, there’s a way. — International proverb

14. Strength

When Gandhi was physically weak, mentally he was the strongest. Will mental weakness ever persuade anyone?

15. Demand

Demand more from yourself. Don’t settle for good. Always strive for excellence.

16. Preparation

Fail to prepare, prepare to fail. An unshakeable truth in public speaking – it also applies to life and leadership.

17. Focus

If everything is important, then nothing is important. — Brian Mulroney

18. Commitment

100% head, 100% heart.

19. Dedication

The first one on the battlefield, the last one to leave.

20. Decisiveness

The worst decision is to take no decision.

21. Competitiveness

A quitter never wins and a winner never quits. — Napoleon Hill

22. Perseverance

Dripping water doesn’t hollow out the stone by force, but through persistence. — Ovid

23. Adaptation

Nothing is as constant as change. Adapt to new situations instantly. Don’t look back in anger.

 

Interaction

24. Accessibility

Don’t waste your time. Train your people to get to the point, but never lock them out. Be accessible!

25. Attention

Birthday wishes, Christmas cards, an acknowledging nod – attention to detail is priceless.

26. Kindness

If you want to be an asshole, charisma is not your game. Kindness is a rule.

27. Emotional intelligence

Do you have the capacity to recognize your own, and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior?

28. Empathy

What about them?

29. Sympathy

Common feeling.

30. Sensibility

Are you able to appreciate and respond to complex emotional or aesthetic influences?

31. Individuality

Everyone is different. Treat everyone differently.

32. Patience

Patience is a virtue.

33. Openness

The room of charisma has no door. Be open!

34. Open-mindedness

My ignorance let me reject gay people in the past. Today, some of my great friends are gay. Open your mind!

35. Non-judgment

Very difficult. Don’t we judge everyone and everything all the time? And yet, charisma doesn’t like to judge.

36. Respect

Your positive feeling of admiration makes others shine.

37. Compassion

When others suffer, you suffer.

38. Awareness

When you communicate with others, be aware of their situation. Similar to empathy.

39. Love

Love your neighbor as yourself. — Mark 12:31

40. Gentleness

Gentleness is a strong hand with a soft touch. Be that hand!

41. Forgiveness

The ability to forgive? One of the best human traits.

42. Solidarity

Go out, do good! Talk to Trent zum Mallen!

43. Facilitation

A-people hire A-people; B-people hire C-people.Markus Bohl. Beyond your own agenda, facilitate massive personal and professional growth in others!

44. Collaboration

Confrontation is for losers. Winners collaborate.

45. Objectivity

Put yourself in the shoes of others. How would they judge your decisions? Be objective!

46. Consent

Being a rock is great, but not a rock that blocks any agreement. Look for and support consent.

47. Extroversion

Speak up!

48. Charm

Make more compliments, honest compliments. People will love you more.

49. Courtesy

Manners don’t belong to the past. Open doors, know your plates, stand up when someone arrives or leaves.

 

Communication

50. Rhetoric

2,300 years old, but younger than ever. Use these 25 rhetorical devices!

51. Public Speaking

Join a Toastmasters club – this week!

52. Story-telling

Plot, characters, theme, dialog, décor, chorus, spectacle – these seven golden rules of Aristotle will make your stories shine. On top of that, CSI is a guaranteed winner!

53. Listening skills

We have two ears and one mouth.

54. Wisdom

Share your experiences. Wisdom knows no age.

55. Simplicity

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. — Leonardo Da Vinci

56. Language

Speak the language of your audience. (But avoid four letter words!)

57. Message

A speech without a message is like Jesus without a mission.Tobias Rodrigues

58. Arguments

Persuade people with robust arguments based on logos (logic), ethos (credibility) and pathos (emotion).

59. Emotions

We have a logical brain and an emotional brain. Guess who wins when they fight.

60. Vulnerability

Share your imperfections, your raw inner self, your broken soul – that’s where human connection goes deep.

61. Transparency

How can you trigger emotions in other people, if your heart is covered by a thick and heavy curtain?

62. Naturalness

Do bar talk in front of audiences, speak as if you were having a conversation with a friend.

63. Humor

Exaggeration, breaking the expected, self-deprecating comments – humor is pattern.

64. Freshness

Don’t be a rotting apple when you speak. Be a kiwi, an orange, a lemon – be fresh!

65. Enthusiasm

Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

66. Energy

The number one success factor in communication. Body and voice – be more energetic!

67. Voice

Volume, pace, pitch, pause – let your voice go wild!

68. Clarity

Short sentences, no conjunctions, pauses – the clearer the better.

69. Intonation

Let your words metamorphose into music.

70. Flow

Imagine a roller coaster ride with the slow rise and fast fall, with ups and downs, sudden turns and lasting loops. That’s your speech flow.

71. Silence

No word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause. — Mark Twain

72. Body language

Closed body language shows unease, anxiety, fear. Open body language shows charisma.

73. Expressiveness

There’s a mirror in your bathroom. Train your mimic every morning.

74. Gestures

Metaphorical gestures, illustrative gestures, symbolic gestores, signaling gestures – make your body speak!

75. Eye Contact

When you avoid direct eye contact, your charisma avoids you. Look them straight into their soul.

 

Role model

76. Sincerity

Be real, be sincere, don’t be fake. Say what you feel and feel what you say.

77. Honesty

Don’t lie. Be honest. Tell the truth, even if it hurts.

78. Humaneness

You’re not a machine, you’re not perfect. Make mistakes, admit mistakes, be human.

79. Emotiveness

Be emotional. Your emotions inspire others.

80. Humbleness

Arrogance is the slow death of charisma. In the long run, only humbleness can win.

81. Integrity

Walk the talk. Or, like Warren Buffet defines it: Say NO when you feel like it.

82. Truth

Truth is subjective. Be that subjective truth!

83. Goodness

Anything you do, Karma sees it. Deep in your heart you know what is good. Always be good!

84. Moral

The original meaning of ethos is moral values. Charisma is ethos; ethos must be always at 100%.

85. Optimism

In the end, everything will be alright. If you don’t think that way, change your attitude.

86. Positivity

One step doesn’t work? Take another one. Be positive even in the most troublesome situation.

87. Happiness

Don’t worry, be happy. — Bobby McFerrin

88. Self-esteem

Love yourself.

89. Self-confidence

If you’re not confident about yourself, who will ever be confident about you?

90. Self-security

Take action against the odds. Be secure about your actions.

91. Spontaneity

I was 14 years old. My biology teacher Mr. Rundler opened the classroom window one day. He looked at us with a fat grin. Enthusiastically he said, Let’s go to my garden!

92. Passion

Let the bonfire burn in your heart. Show your passion.

93. Coherence

Take off that mask. Be coherent with your content, body and voice. Show your feelings.

94. Consistency

Don’t be that flag in the wind. Stick to your beliefs, convictions, decisions!

95. Consequence

Bare the consequences of your actions.

96. Self-criticism

Don’t be afraid to criticize yourself in front of others. They love you for that.

97. Noblesse

Dignity, excellence, incorruptibility – be noble.

98. Seriousness

Humor is one thing, but when it matters, be serious.

99. Zen

When the shit hits the fan, switch off the fan. Be Zen when others erupt like the Mount Vesuvius.

100. Self-control

Control your temper. Be Ronald Reagan, not Donald Trump!

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