Five years of charisma trainings have taught me one thing: charisma is not 100% innate – at all! You, I, we all can increase our level of charisma. In this article I offer you a list of 100 charisma boosters. These 100 charisma boosters – hundreds of training participants came up with them, none of them innate – will doubtlessly help you to become a more charismatic person and communicator. Print them out, work on them, boost your charisma!
There are five categories of charisma drivers – presence, goals, interaction, communication and role model. In my opinion, the level of importance rises with each category.
No smile, no charisma.
Be an oak tree, not a shrub.
You don’t have to look like George Clooney, but take care of yourself.
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Steve Jobs’ turtlenecks, Angela Merkel’s diamond, I lack two incisors. What makes your presence unique?
The late Helmut Schmidt, former chancellor of Germany, once said: Those who have a vision, should go and see a doctor. I couldn’t disagree more. Share your vision, and they can follow.
If you don’t have beliefs to stand up for, what will you stand up for?
Apathy, laziness, lethargy – what have they ever achieved?
Charismatic people need much less extrinsic motivation.
What you don’t do, nobody will do it.
You know you will succeed.
You’re convinced that you’re doing the right thing. You defend your conviction against any opposition.
Where there’s a will, there’s a way. — International proverb
When Gandhi was physically weak, mentally he was the strongest. Will mental weakness ever persuade anyone?
Demand more from yourself. Don’t settle for good. Always strive for excellence.
Fail to prepare, prepare to fail. An unshakeable truth in public speaking – it also applies to life and leadership.
If everything is important, then nothing is important. — Brian Mulroney
100% head, 100% heart.
The first one on the battlefield, the last one to leave.
The worst decision is to take no decision.
A quitter never wins and a winner never quits. — Napoleon Hill
Dripping water doesn’t hollow out the stone by force, but through persistence. — Ovid
Nothing is as constant as change. Adapt to new situations instantly. Don’t look back in anger.
Don’t waste your time. Train your people to get to the point, but never lock them out. Be accessible!
Birthday wishes, Christmas cards, an acknowledging nod – attention to detail is priceless.
If you want to be an asshole, charisma is not your game. Kindness is a rule.
27. Emotional intelligence
Do you have the capacity to recognize your own, and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior?
What about them?
Are you able to appreciate and respond to complex emotional or aesthetic influences?
Everyone is different. Treat everyone differently.
Patience is a virtue.
The room of charisma has no door. Be open!
My ignorance let me reject gay people in the past. Today, some of my great friends are gay. Open your mind!
Very difficult. Don’t we judge everyone and everything all the time? And yet, charisma doesn’t like to judge.
Your positive feeling of admiration makes others shine.
When others suffer, you suffer.
When you communicate with others, be aware of their situation. Similar to empathy.
Love your neighbor as yourself. — Mark 12:31
Gentleness is a strong hand with a soft touch. Be that hand!
The ability to forgive? One of the best human traits.
Go out, do good! Talk to Trent zum Mallen!
A-people hire A-people; B-people hire C-people. — Markus Bohl. Beyond your own agenda, facilitate massive personal and professional growth in others!
Confrontation is for losers. Winners collaborate.
Put yourself in the shoes of others. How would they judge your decisions? Be objective!
Being a rock is great, but not a rock that blocks any agreement. Look for and support consent.
Make more compliments, honest compliments. People will love you more.
Manners don’t belong to the past. Open doors, know your plates, stand up when someone arrives or leaves.
2,300 years old, but younger than ever. Use these 25 rhetorical devices!
51. Public Speaking
Join a Toastmasters club – this week!
Plot, characters, theme, dialog, décor, chorus, spectacle – these seven golden rules of Aristotle will make your stories shine. On top of that, CSI is a guaranteed winner!
53. Listening skills
We have two ears and one mouth.
Share your experiences. Wisdom knows no age.
Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication. — Leonardo Da Vinci
Speak the language of your audience. (But avoid four letter words!)
A speech without a message is like Jesus without a mission. — Tobias Rodrigues
Persuade people with robust arguments based on logos (logic), ethos (credibility) and pathos (emotion).
We have a logical brain and an emotional brain. Guess who wins when they fight.
Share your imperfections, your raw inner self, your broken soul – that’s where human connection goes deep.
How can you trigger emotions in other people, if your heart is covered by a thick and heavy curtain?
Do bar talk in front of audiences, speak as if you were having a conversation with a friend.
Exaggeration, breaking the expected, self-deprecating comments – humor is pattern.
Don’t be a rotting apple when you speak. Be a kiwi, an orange, a lemon – be fresh!
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm. — Ralph Waldo Emerson
The number one success factor in communication. Body and voice – be more energetic!
Volume, pace, pitch, pause – let your voice go wild!
Short sentences, no conjunctions, pauses – the clearer the better.
Let your words metamorphose into music.
Imagine a roller coaster ride with the slow rise and fast fall, with ups and downs, sudden turns and lasting loops. That’s your speech flow.
No word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause. — Mark Twain
72. Body language
Closed body language shows unease, anxiety, fear. Open body language shows charisma.
There’s a mirror in your bathroom. Train your mimic every morning.
Metaphorical gestures, illustrative gestures, symbolic gestores, signaling gestures – make your body speak!
75. Eye Contact
When you avoid direct eye contact, your charisma avoids you. Look them straight into their soul.
Be real, be sincere, don’t be fake. Say what you feel and feel what you say.
Don’t lie. Be honest. Tell the truth, even if it hurts.
You’re not a machine, you’re not perfect. Make mistakes, admit mistakes, be human.
Be emotional. Your emotions inspire others.
Arrogance is the slow death of charisma. In the long run, only humbleness can win.
Walk the talk. Or, like Warren Buffet defines it: Say NO when you feel like it.
Truth is subjective. Be that subjective truth!
Anything you do, Karma sees it. Deep in your heart you know what is good. Always be good!
The original meaning of ethos is moral values. Charisma is ethos; ethos must be always at 100%.
In the end, everything will be alright. If you don’t think that way, change your attitude.
One step doesn’t work? Take another one. Be positive even in the most troublesome situation.
Don’t worry, be happy. — Bobby McFerrin
If you’re not confident about yourself, who will ever be confident about you?
Take action against the odds. Be secure about your actions.
I was 14 years old. My biology teacher Mr. Rundler opened the classroom window one day. He looked at us with a fat grin. Enthusiastically he said, Let’s go to my garden!
Let the bonfire burn in your heart. Show your passion.
Take off that mask. Be coherent with your content, body and voice. Show your feelings.
Don’t be that flag in the wind. Stick to your beliefs, convictions, decisions!
Bare the consequences of your actions.
Don’t be afraid to criticize yourself in front of others. They love you for that.
Dignity, excellence, incorruptibility – be noble.
Humor is one thing, but when it matters, be serious.
When the shit hits the fan, switch off the fan. Be Zen when others erupt like the Mount Vesuvius.
Control your temper. Be Ronald Reagan, not Donald Trump!